I’m a ‘passport bro’: We want ‘traditional’ wives, not ‘mail order brides’
“Passport bros” are looking for love, but not just any gal will get the entry stamp into their hearts.
Eligible bachelors in the US dubbed “passport bros” are flocking to foreign countries after ditching the American dating pool in search of love overseas — much to the disgust of women on the internet.
On TikTok, the tag #passportbros has scored more than 422 million views, featuring clips of men parading their far-flung lovers online while advertising the growing trend.
The draw of dating abroad, according to unsatisfied singletons in the US, is finding a “traditional” wife.
That is, women who are “raised to be good wives,” dress modestly and submit to their partners.
Austin Abeyta is just one of many in the brotherhood who flaunts his prowess online, fondly referring to his travels as “the adventure of a lifetime.”
Remote worker Abeyta has gone viral as the self-styled “Digital Bromad,” scoring more than 413,000 followers on TikTok, all while he travels to Colombia, Thailand, South Korea and the Philippines, allegedly in search of a blushing bride.
“A lot of women overseas are taught from a young age from their mothers and other members of their family how to treat a man and how to make their future husband happy,” the Colorado native, who is looking for a “kind” and “cooperative” partner with “a positive view on men,” told The Post.
“But in America, I think a lot of women were taught ‘Men aren’t s – – t’ or ‘I don’t need a man.’ “
In his videos, Abeyta gloats about the myriad of benefits that accompany dating overseas.
For one, men from the US are “exotic,” he claims in a TikTok post with 1.8 million views, adding that playing into the stereotype of a “rich” American will take single men far.
“The truth that a lot of people don’t want to admit is that dating overseas is absolutely different,” the digital analyst, 32, told The Post. “There are very few men that will tell you that dating outside of America isn’t [five times] better.”
The larger collective of passport bros, or those who hold similar beliefs, champion Abeyta in the comments section of his viral videos while denouncing the dating landscape and American women in one foul swoop.
“A lot of American women are bitter [because] they have a s – – tty attitude and don’t understand that most men believe in a Patriarchy [sic] relationship,” one user commented.
“The difference is that women from other countries actually APPRECIATE being treated well, unlike A LOT of women here in the USA,” another scoffed.
Wannabe hubbies can certainly find a “quality partner” in the US, Abeyta admitted, but dating overseas has been a “10/10” experience — “and the majority of men who have left will tell you that,” he added.
But the allure of a foreign fling isn’t just reserved for men: On the flipside, women are also heading overseas in an attempt to meet a match, escaping the “toxic” dating pool in the US, according to the New York Times.
Women explained how they didn’t feel “seen” by men until traveling abroad, and were swept off their feet in other countries.
Ceppe Tabibian, 35, fled Austin, Texas, for Madrid after growing tired of swiping on dating apps.
“I felt like every guy was the same guy,” she said. “I felt like if I stayed there, I’m probably going to be single forever.”
However, it appears that while American bachelorettes are searching for more “serious” suitors who will put in the “effort” to woo them, the self-proclaimed “passport bros” are sniffing out a housewife.
Online, fellow passport bros tout women abroad for their distinctive qualities, such as, according to one TikToker, cooking, cleaning and being “feminine,” “submissive,” “not argumentative” and giving “sexual access when you ask for it.”
The arguably misogynistic “movement” has also been met with online vitriol, with critics panning their online propaganda as “disgusting,” “predatory” or “just sex tourism with a less offensive name.”
“They really rebranded ‘mail order brides’ to sound even worse than it did before. This is not new,” one user said on the social media site Reddit.
“In terms of how it impacts women in the US: There is an expression of letting the trash take itself out,” wrote another, in part. “In terms of supply and demand — there is little demand for men who think and behave like this, and clearly an oversupply.”
But Abeyta, who is currently trawling for potential spouses in Tokyo, shrugs off judgment, saying it’s “disappointing” to see Americans bash people in other countries, and calling the haters “jealous.”
“People need to paint passport bros as these losers or predators because then they can ignore the state of the dating culture in America and how they contributed to it,” he said.
